You two are impossible to have a rational discussion with.
IN THE CONTEXT OF WHAT HAS BEEN SAID IN THIS THREAD!!!!
Love is ACTING in another's best interest!
There, you see how easy that was?! Twelve whole syllables! Your emotional state of mind may or may not be involved at all. You might have a great deal of affection for the person or you may hate their guts, but if you act, whether in thought, word or deed, in a manner that is in that person's best interest then your act is an act of love - by definition.
What is the most loving thing a governing official can do to a murderer?
Publicly execute him upon his conviction.
What is the most loving thing you can do for a lazy person?
Allow his hunger pains to motivate him get off his butt and work.
What is the most loving thing you can do to members of your church who are having an elicit affair?
Inform the pastor and their spouses and if they refuse to repent, they should be removed from your church.
What is the most loving thing a parent can do for a child who comes out of the closet as gay?
Disown him and then start an investigation into who it was who molested him as a child. (Good chance is was a family member.)
I have a list of bible passages that almost no Christians know exist. Here's one that applies directly to this "conversation"...
Psalms 139: 19 Oh, that You would slay the wicked, O God!
Depart from me, therefore, you bloodthirsty men.
20 For they speak against You wickedly;
Your enemies take Your name in vain.
21 Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You?
And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?
22 I hate them with perfect hatred;
I count them my enemies.
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
24 And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting.