That is your misconception talking. You are not accepting all of what Scripture says about it; only taking partial statements from things that seem to agree with what you already believe.
Yes, man must baptize in water, but that is not controlling the door. That is the Door stating who He will and will not admit through the door.
First you failed to address this
This is not water
1 Corinthians 12:13 (ESV) — 13 For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.
And water failed to do so at Acts 8, 19
And was accomplished before water in Acts 10,11,15 (Cornelius and the gentiles)
second you make water baptism the controlling element in imparting the Spirit
third
The promise of the father
John 14:16–17 (LEB) — 16 And
I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, in order that he may be with you forever—17 the Spirit of truth, whom the world is not able to receive, because it does not see him or know him. You know him, because he resides with you and
will be in you.
concerns the indwelling
The Spirit was not given to indwell men before the glorification of Jesus
John 7:38–39 (LEB) — 38 the one who believes in me. Just as the scripture said, ‘Out of his belly will flow rivers of living water.’ ” 39 (Now he said this concerning the Spirit, whom those who believed in him were about to receive. For the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus had not yet been glorified.)
This promise was fulfilled at Pentecost
Acts 2:33 (LEB) — 33 Therefore, having been exalted to the right hand of God and
having received the promise of the Holy Spirit from the Father, he has poured out this that you see and hear.
which is when the baptism en the Spirit transpired
Acts 1:4–5 (LEB) — 4 And while he was with them, he commanded them, “Do not depart from Jerusalem,
but wait for what was promised by the Father, which you heard about from me. 5 For John baptized with water, but
you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit not many days from now.”
At the baptism en the Spirit, the Spirit comes to indwell men