civic~you are asking the wrong question, and the reason being is you have a false understanding of what is being born again.
You should be asking..." Do you as a profess believer in God, have the fruits of the Spirit in your life?" Love being the greatest of all.
I know why you and your friends ask this question, because you think it takes a priest,/preacher/some person and them bringing the gospel to get folks born again, but that is so wrong.
You can be born again in your mother's womb; or, in a country where they worship false gods, like Abraham was; or, you could be at death's door like the thief on the cross, who at one minute, railed upon Christ, then out on nowhere condemned the other malefactor, and then ask Jesus to remember him, when he came into his kingdom, to which Jesus said, today thou shalt be with me in Paradise. Praise the name of the Lord Jesus.