Do you recognize the Calvinist teaching that God doesn't love some people?
If you do, then how do you reconcile the fact that sinners love their own and yet you're attributing this "type" of love to God?
God loves all those who do not love Him. That is the love of God.
Scripture clearly teaches that God both loves everyone and that some will forever perish.
Sinners can love because God has given us that ability. You even find it in the animal kingdom. He also gives us common Grace. Therefore we're not as bad as we could be.
If God didn't love everyone then no one would get saved.
God has a general love for all his creations.
The Lord is good to all, and His tender mercies are over all His works [the entirety of things created].
Psalm 145:9.
But when we speak of God’s unchanging love, we do not mean that God accepts all people.
He who believes in Him [who clings to, trusts in, relies on Him] is not judged [he who trusts in Him never comes up for judgment; for him there is no rejection, no condemnation—he incurs no damnation]; but he who does not believe (cleave to, rely on, trust in Him) is judged already [he has already been convicted and has already received his sentence] because he has not believed in and trusted in the name of the only begotten Son of God. [He is condemned for refusing to let his trust rest in Christ’s name.] John 3:18
36 And he who believes in (has faith in, clings to, relies on) the Son has (now possesses) eternal life. But whoever disobeys (is unbelieving toward, refuses to trust in, disregards, is not subject to) the Son will never see (experience) life, but [instead] the wrath of God abides on him. [God’s displeasure remains on him; His indignation hangs over him continually.] [Hab. 2:4.]
John 3:36.
God does not have unlimited patience with the unrepentant.
Or are you [so blind as to] trifle with and presume upon and despise and underestimate the wealth of His kindness and forbearance and long-suffering patience? Are you unmindful or actually ignorant [of the fact] that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repent (to change your mind and inner man to accept God’s will)?
5 But by your callous stubbornness and impenitence of heart you are storing up wrath and indignation for yourself on the day of wrath and indignation, when God’s righteous judgment (just doom) will be revealed.
Romans 2:4–5.
The Lord can withdraw the mercies of his general love and send sinners to hell forever.
Therefore the Lord will not rejoice over their young men, neither will He have compassion on their fatherless and widows, for everyone is profane and an evildoer, and every mouth speaks folly. For all this, [God’s] anger is not turned away, but His hand is still stretched out [in judgment]. Isaiah 9:17
4 And My eye will not spare you, neither will I have pity; but I will bring recompense for your evil ways upon you, while your abominations are in the midst of you [calling down punishment from a righteous God]; and you shall know (recognize, understand, and realize) that I am the Lord.
9And My eye will not spare, nor will I have pity. I will punish you according to your ways while your abominations are right in the midst of you. And you shall know, understand, and realize that it is I the Lord Who smites you
Ezek. 7:4, 9
All their wickedness [says the Lord] is focused in Gilgal, for there I hated them; for the wickedness of their [idolatrous] doings I will drive them out of My house [the Holy Land]; I will love them no more; all their princes are rebels.
Hosea 9:15
41 Then He will say to those at His left hand, Begone from Me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels!
46 Then they will go away into eternal punishment, but those who are just and upright and in right standing with God into eternal life.
Matthew 25:41, 46