How do you respond to people....especially family...

[MTMattie]

when someone is about to die or just has and they actually think the person is in heaven reunited with their loved ones on the day they died.

I have family coming in later and we are going to see my mom who is in assisted living memory care.

She had a turn for the worst last night and the fellow who called at 11:30 PM told me what happened and when I asked if it was soon for her, he said no, maybe 48 hours.

So in talking to the cousins wife this AM and she saying they would come today so we all could go see her tomorrow she is coaching me on what to say to mom.... who likely cannot hear a thing.

She said to take her had, tell her I love her, but it is alright for her to go be with my dad.

I avoid discussions in the family as there are too many splits as it is... buit what would you say? Or would you be quiet like I was?

 

[mikesw]

The time with your mom should be according to your comfort and possibly hers. Your cousin's recommendation seems fully appropriate.

I had a friend dying and a cousin of his was wanting to evangelize to my friend where I was trying to comfort him in his prior claims to being a Christian. I however did say to the cousin to do what he thought was right or needed.

 

[MTMattie]

The time with your mom should be according to your comfort and possibly hers. Your cousin's recommendation seems fully appropriate. I had a friend dying and a cousin of his was wanting to evangelize to my friend where I was trying to comfort him in his prior claims to being a Christian. I however did say to the cousin to do what he thought was right or needed.

Thank you,

We saw her this morning and it was extremely difficult.

I told her it was alright for her to go. She will be seeing dad... I just did not add eventually. And it was fine for her to go to God and to Jesus...

Then I kissed her, told her I love her... And left.

I cannot go back to see her like that and her vitals are still fair... but slowly failing.

They did say that even being asleep she can still hear as hearing is the last to go....

What an incredibly miserable disease dementia is.

 

[Administrator]

Are they saved?

@civic is one to ask about this.

 

[civic]

Thank you,

We saw her this morning and it was extremely difficult.

I told her it was alright for her to go. She will be seeing dad... I just did not add eventually. And it was fine for her to go to God and to Jesus...

Then I kissed her, told her I love her... And left.

I cannot go back to see her like that and her vitals are still fair... but slowly failing.

They did say that even being asleep she can still hear as hearing is the last to go....

What an incredibly miserable disease dementia is.

Yes dealt with that personally with my mother in law and been bedside with numerous families over the past 10 years as their loved ones passed on hospice care. Dementia abd Alzheimers are terrible diseases. And yes they can hear you even though they cannot communicate back with you.

 

[MTMattie]

She crossed over last evening. The memory care place called me and I go do the funeral home thing when I hear from them today.

She believed in and trusted in Jesus. Her faith was with Him.

She grew more into things back in the late 80s and 90s when I had a personal "urge" to grow ... as I used to phrase things ... with God"
(Things in my iife made me do a 180 repentance on not all... then, but I would say that humanly would have been offensive. And then grew from that. But that is beside the point. because this is not about me and when I had failiings but her."

I believe she was saved, though we never specifically talked about "born again".

Church attendance was sporadic over the past 30 plus years but then we would catch our church on the internet each Sunday and we even were able to take home communion during those services... (once a month) ... until they stopped it this year??????????????????????????????????/
But it was this year that we both were mentioned aas having been members for more then 50 years, and our tithes and offering went

 

[civic]

She crossed over last evening. The memory care place called me and I go do the funeral home thing when I hear from them today.

She believed in and trusted in Jesus. Her faith was with Him.

She grew more into things back in the late 80s and 90s when I had a personal "urge" to grow ... as I used to phrase things ... with God"
(Things in my iife made me do a 180 repentance on not all... then, but I would say that humanly would have been offensive. And then grew from that. But that is beside the point. because this is not about me and when I had failiings but her."

I believe she was saved, though we never specifically talked about "born again".

Church attendance was sporadic over the past 30 plus years but then we would catch our church on the internet each Sunday and we even were able to take home communion during those services... (once a month) ... until they stopped it this year??????????????????????????????????/
But it was this year that we both were mentioned aas having been members for more then 50 years, and our tithes and offering went

praying for your family during this difficult time. and yes God knows her heart and trusting in our Lord is how one is saved. Eternal life never ends and she is with her Savior Jesus Christ.

 

[e v e]

when someone is about to die or just has and they actually think the person is in heaven reunited with their loved ones on the day they died.

I have family coming in later and we are going to see my mom who is in assisted living memory care.

She had a turn for the worst last night and the fellow who called at 11:30 PM told me what happened and when I asked if it was soon for her, he said no, maybe 48 hours.

So in talking to the cousins wife this AM and she saying they would come today so we all could go see her tomorrow she is coaching me on what to say to mom.... who likely cannot hear a thing.

She said to take her had, tell her I love her, but it is alright for her to go be with my dad.

I avoid discussions in the family as there are too many splits as it is... buit what would you say? Or would you be quiet like I was?

when my father died, and I was with him the night before, the room was filled with family. Never got to be alone. So I told him a few things though I don't know if he heard me. My sister did not like what I told him about paradise and God and scolded me in front of others, said I was going to hell etc., the same morning after he died. I do not regret not reading a script my sister approved of. I told him what I told him and I stand by that though yes I now avoid all religion topics as generally it causes lots of anger to be directed at me. Anyway reason to talk about God to someone who doesn't want to hear... But it was my last communication to my dad so I felt in that case I had to say what I said, come what may.

 

[MTMattie]

when my father died, and I was with him the night before, the room was filled with family. Never got to be alone. So I told him a few things though I don't know if he heard me. My sister did not like what I told him about paradise and God and scolded me in front of others, said I was going to hell etc., the same morning after he died. I do not regret not reading a script my sister approved of. I told him what I told him and I stand by that though yes I now avoid all religion topics as generally it causes lots of anger to be directed at me. Anyway reason to talk about God to someone who doesn't want to hear... But it was my last communication to my dad so I felt in that case I had to say what I said, come what may.

I understand and agree with you.