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dizerner said:
It's just an IM app like any IM app... that's like saying telephones are "no better than telemarketers."
I don't really understand your logic, but I'm not trying to be mean.

peace
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Exactly: It is just an IM app. In my experience the apps are not the problem. The problem is the people who use them. In my long years of using the internet people jump from shiny new thing to the next. When I was online trying to meet a Christian Woman. I would meet women who would use a website or IM app for a while, and the next thing I knew they would send me an invitation to join another site or app. After a while it got old jumping from one place to another. Using one IM app after another. I remember around 2007, I used to have 3 IM programs opened at once, and a couple social sites with chatrooms open too. But it didn't make things any easier for me. To this day, I'm still single, and I'm no longer in contact with any of them! I was very disappointed in discord! There was only one person that I was able to talk too on a regular basis. But I didn't meet them on discord, I met them on a social anxiety forum. If they weren't online then I had to look around for other servers. After spending countless hours hopping from one server to another, I really only found one that was active enough to call it a chatroom. Even there I couldn't figure out how to fit in, or make people like me enough to have an actual conversation. I always give things a good chance. I used discord for probably a month before ditching it. I realize that people feel differently about stuff, but that seems to depend on how good of luck they have with it.

Is the problem me? It sure could be! But all I can do is do the best I can. And if the best I can is not good enough then I'm all out of tricks. I've reached the end of the road. There is nowhere else to go. Nothing left to try. I'm done. That is how things went for me on discord.

You might be wondering what happened between me and that other person. As far as I know we departed on good terms. You see, our online relationship became stuck in one spot. So when it came time for me to get rid of discord, there was also problems starting to effect me on social anxiety too. I ended up leaving that site. Since that person refused to email with me, or even talk to me on the phone, that combination ended things.

@dizerner I don't know if that answers your question about my logic or not.
 
I wanted to write a follow up on how things turned out on christianityboard. After the admin wrote me back, I responded saying that this is another reason why I want my account deleted. And then I mentioned how what He said about prayer request tone causing people to discuss. I said How do you think that makes me feel? Then I said. Delete My Account! It took several minutes before something happened. They just put me on a user requested ban. I guess that works just as well.

Whenever I run into stuff like this. I always wonder, who is more stupid? Me or them? I'm sensitive to this sort of thing because when I was in school I worked my butt off to graduate high school. And yet no matter how hard I worked I was never totally up with all the rest of my peers. So in some ways I always carry a vague feeling that I'm not as smart as other people. And yet when other people act like this, I find myself second guessing myself over and over again.

Another problem I ran into. Sometimes people are afraid that they might upset me. This also makes me sad. Because I try not to get upset too easily. But I guess they sense that I get frustrated. I don't know what to do about that. I don't think I'm ready to ask anyone online for help with this. Someone in person could do a better job sorting this out, I think.
 
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I have to say once again you write and communicate your thoughts very well through writing. I'm serious you could write a book, you are gifted in communicating through sharing your thoughts in writing. That is not easy to learn or teach.

From my short time with you here that stands out to me. :)
 
civic said:
I have to say once again you write and communicate your thoughts very well through writing. I'm serious you could write a book, you are gifted in communicating through sharing your thoughts in writing. That is not easy to learn or teach.

From my short time with you here that stands out to me. :)
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I always figured it is just because I'm more open then most. I mean we all go to school to learn to write. But I guess the education system isn't so good anymore. Or maybe it is because so many people have gotten used to texting and twitter. I don't know. I really don't!

When I was on christianchat, it's a forum and chatroom thing. At least one guy argued with me, saying that He didn't believe that I had a learning disability because I wrote so good. I recommended a book to him called Driven To Distraction. I don't know if He ever ordered it or not. But I recommend that people try to learn about learning disabilities. Because things are not always as black and white as they seem.

People with learning disabilities could be awesome with one thing but terrible at everything else. You know how life is, you need to be decent at many things to get through it.
 
dizerner said:
Yeah, I think I get the idea.

We have to be careful when what we are looking for is people to meet our needs, not really people to be a friend to.

Those really aren't the same things, even if they can seem like it.
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I really don't know how to do either. It seems like people just fall into my lap, and then I do the best I can to keep whatever got started going. But that happens so little that I often haft to go looking for people.
 
I join sites like this for human interaction. Because my job and life have always deprived me of those things. Other people who join sites like this... It seems to me, they join because they want to their voices heard. They want to spread whatever "Christian Views" they hold to other people, and discuss them. But I'm different. Firstly I choose to believe in Jesus Christ that He is who He says He is, and that only He can save me. But beyond that, I don't think my beliefs matter that much. What I mean by that is this is I can choose to believe in whatever I want but it won't change reality. God is reality so I need to try and align my beliefs to his reality. That is the only way my beliefs will do any good. But understanding the Bible fully, is a lifetime endeavor. That means along the way I'm going to be mistaken about some things. But I choose to put my hope in God that He will make my paths straight.
 
Today my parents and I watched this one. It's the next one in the series. I don't think I'm very good at encouraging people, but I can also tell you that almost nobody ever encouraged me either! Seems to me, in the Church we need more encouraging going on.

 

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