Another Look at the Homosexual & Lesbian Squabble

Taking Another Look at the Homosexual &
Lesbian Squabble


Looking Back to 2008
Do any of you readers remember the TV Interview of Clay Aiken, homosexual, on Good Morning America in 2008? I addressed that Interview in my column at the time it occurred. I have revisited that Interview again, and I am prompted to address the homosexual/lesbian movement once more. Please look back with me.—Buff.

Aiken “came out of the closet” and announced to the world, “I am gay!” Our President at the time, plus a host of other “notables,” “let it all hang out,” regardless of the depravity linked to it, and gave him thumbs up. During the Interview, I observed Aiken looked more feminine than masculine and had the voice of a female. His speech and gestures were “lady-like.” I inquired of Google if Aiken had changed or altered his genitals, and they replied, “No, He has not changed his genitals, nor has he indicated any change in his gender identity.” He is 46 years old now, and his gender is still male. He was born with male genitals, which in turn establishes him as heterosexual.

It is common knowledge that homosexual behavior is often blamed on environmental causes, such as a daughter being raised without a mother or a son being brought up without a father. During their early teenage years, the daughter is likely to direct her affections toward females, as though seeking a motherly relationship, while the son directs his “tenderness” toward males and becomes sexually attached to them. In the long-run, he adopts homosexual behavior while the daughter embraces lesbianism. This truism, of course, is not applicable to all daughters without a mother or relevant to all sons without a father. But research has shown that these factors are widespread among homosexuals and lesbians.

In Aiken’s case, however, environmental factors seem to be missing. Clips of his family were played during the interview, and they seemed to depict a normal family. There are other homosexuals like Aiken. So where do we go from here? If environmental factors were not present, and played no role in his sexual attachment to other males, and if he carries far more female genes than male genes, is he living a life of immorality by going to bed with and indulging in sexual activities with other male homosexuals, even a male he might be “married” to?

Of interest is that according to various medical sources, the “female gene” argument is highly questionable and is no more valid than the “rapist gene” or the “pedophile gene” or the “gene” associated with lying. So, do I believe all homosexuals and lesbians are “born that way”? No more than I believe pedophiles, voyeurs, and exhibitionists, liars, and thieves are “born that way.” That a small number within the homosexual community is born with sexual aberrations or deformities, no knowledgeable person will deny. A good estimate, I think, is that 95 percent of homosexuals are that way because they have chosen that lifestyle.

As per the biblical record, God literally destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah. No one in these cities survived the destruction except righteous Lot and his family, who fled to the mountains (Genesis 19). Do you suppose there were a few homosexuals in Sodom and Gomorrah who were “born that way” and who claimed, “I can’t help being what I am”?

But let’s get back to Aiken. May he engage in sexuality with other males without angering a righteous God, even though he may be “married” to another male? If yes, how do we reconcile such behavior with the many biblical Scriptures that condemn homosexuality, in both the Jewish and Christian scriptures? In the Christian community at Corinth, Paul wrote that practicing homosexuals will not “inherit the [eternal] reign of God” (1 Cor. 6:9-11). He added, “And such were some of you.” In the Corinthian congregation, there were recovering alcoholics, recovering revilers, recovering liars, recovering swindlers, recovering thieves, and recovering homosexuals.

In light of all of this, how do we judge a “male” like Aiken? After all, his sexual posture may be a genuine case of “I can’t help being what I am.” But will the same excuse equally apply to the alcoholic, the pedophile, the voyeur, the drug addict? May Roman Catholic clerics who sexually abuse young boys rightfully claim, “I can’t help being what I am”? If one form of sexual “disfiguration”—homosexuality—can “get off the hook” by its practitioners making this claim, why not Roman Catholic clerics? Or do we discriminate against certain forms of sexual deviations?

Many people are predisposed to certain behaviors or, better still, strongly susceptible to certain behaviors. I once had a brother-in-law—now deceased—whose biological system was so susceptible to alcohol that to even get a whiff of it sent him on a long drinking spree. True, he had no control over his susceptibility to alcohol, but he did have control over his behavior or reaction to it. Why not apply this principle to the average homosexual and lesbian?

Singer Aiken’s statement on Good Morning America is quite intriguing and revealing. Listen to what he said. “I can’t raise a kid and teach him how to lie, teach him to hide things. I can’t raise a kid and teach him to keep secrets. And at the same time, I also don’t ever want to raise him in an environment where it’s not OK for him to be exactly who he is, no matter what.” And on that note, I ask Aiken a question or two:

1) Suppose your son grows up to be a pedophile? Would you then say, “I also don’t ever want to raise him in an environment where it’s not OK for him to be exactly who he is, no matter what.”

2) How can you raise a male kid who was born heterosexual in a homosexual environment and expect him to not grow up without leaning toward homosexuality? Will not his early exposure to homosexual activities influence his future behavior?


The bottom line is that God will be the final Judge. And He will judge righteously and justly—and, I might add, mercifully. In the meantime, consider this: The word “detestable” is the most negative adjective used in heaven’s testimony, the scriptures, as well as in the English language. It means to dislike intensely. Here is how God feels about homosexuality, “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable” (Lev. 20:13).

One of my readers said she has been attracted to other women since before puberty, but she does not act upon the attraction. She noted that she has chosen to be married and have sex with her husband. I believe such cravings for and attractions to the same gender are developed at a young age, mostly because of environmental factors. Those attractions, however, do not have to be acted upon—as this lady has decided not to do. The urge to lie, to steal, to hate, and to commit adultery is developed, as I think all of us will agree. Why, then, is it so difficult to see that the urge to have sex with the same gender is developed and/or learned?

In closing, I want to reiterate what I touched upon earlier. That a small segment of the homosexual community is born with sexual aberrations, defects, and deformities no knowledgeable person will deny—aberrations which seem to spur their sexual thoughts in the direction of the same gender. There’s some question whether a mix-up or mixture of genes is the culprit. I don’t believe the gene factor has been solidly and medically established. Some medical researchers affirm it, others deny it. There is ample evidence that genes are not the cause of sexual deviations.

My heart leads me to believe, however, based upon my many years of confrontations, contacts, and dialogues with homosexuals and lesbians, that 95 percent of them are that way because they have chosen that lifestyle. Reflect upon this question, “Is the homosexual that way because he has voluntarily adopted that lifestyle or because he was forced into it via his biological predisposition?
 
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Taking Another Look at the Homosexual &
Lesbian Squabble


Looking Back to 2008
Do any of you readers remember the TV Interview of Clay Aiken, homosexual, on Good Morning America in 2008? I addressed that Interview in my column at the time it occurred. I have revisited that Interview again, and I am prompted to address the homosexual/lesbian movement once more. Please look back with me.—Buff.

Aiken “came out of the closet” and announced to the world, “I am gay!” Our President at the time, plus a host of other “notables,” “let it all hang out,” regardless of the depravity linked to it, and gave him thumbs up. During the Interview, I observed Aiken looked more feminine than masculine and had the voice of a female. His speech and gestures were “lady-like.” I inquired of Google if Aiken had changed or altered his genitals, and they replied, “No, He has not changed his genitals, nor has he indicated any change in his gender identity.” He is 46 years old now, and his gender is still male. He was born with male genitals, which in turn establishes him as heterosexual.

It is common knowledge that homosexual behavior is often blamed on environmental causes, such as a daughter being raised without a mother or a son being brought up without a father. During their early teenage years, the daughter is likely to direct her affections toward females, as though seeking a motherly relationship, while the son directs his “tenderness” toward males and becomes sexually attached to them. In the long-run, he adopts homosexual behavior while the daughter embraces lesbianism. This truism, of course, is not applicable to all daughters without a mother or relevant to all sons without a father. But research has shown that these factors are widespread among homosexuals and lesbians.

In Aiken’s case, however, environmental factors seem to be missing. Clips of his family were played during the interview, and they seemed to depict a normal family. There are other homosexuals like Aiken. So where do we go from here? If environmental factors were not present, and played no role in his sexual attachment to other males, and if he carries far more female genes than male genes, is he living a life of immorality by going to bed with and indulging in sexual activities with other male homosexuals, even a male he might be “married” to?

Of interest is that according to various medical sources, the “female gene” argument is highly questionable and is no more valid than the “rapist gene” or the “pedophile gene” or the “gene” associated with lying. So, do I believe all homosexuals and lesbians are “born that way”? No more than I believe pedophiles, voyeurs, and exhibitionists, liars, and thieves are “born that way.” That a small number within the homosexual community is born with sexual aberrations or deformities, no knowledgeable person will deny. A good estimate, I think, is that 95 percent of homosexuals are that way because they have chosen that lifestyle.

As per the biblical record, God literally destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah. No one in these cities survived the destruction except righteous Lot and his family, who fled to the mountains (Genesis 19). Do you suppose there were a few homosexuals in Sodom and Gomorrah who were “born that way” and who claimed, “I can’t help being what I am”?

But let’s get back to Aiken. May he engage in sexuality with other males without angering a righteous God, even though he may be “married” to another male? If yes, how do we reconcile such behavior with the many biblical Scriptures that condemn homosexuality, in both the Jewish and Christian scriptures? In the Christian community at Corinth, Paul wrote that practicing homosexuals will not “inherit the [eternal] reign of God” (1 Cor. 6:9-11). He added, “And such were some of you.” In the Corinthian congregation, there were recovering alcoholics, recovering revilers, recovering liars, recovering swindlers, recovering thieves, and recovering homosexuals.

In light of all of this, how do we judge a “male” like Aiken? After all, his sexual posture may be a genuine case of “I can’t help being what I am.” But will the same excuse equally apply to the alcoholic, the pedophile, the voyeur, the drug addict? May Roman Catholic clerics who sexually abuse young boys rightfully claim, “I can’t help being what I am”? If one form of sexual “disfiguration”—homosexuality—can “get off the hook” by its practitioners making this claim, why not Roman Catholic clerics? Or do we discriminate against certain forms of sexual deviations?

Many people are predisposed to certain behaviors or, better still, strongly susceptible to certain behaviors. I once had a brother-in-law—now deceased—whose biological system was so susceptible to alcohol that to even get a whiff of it sent him on a long drinking spree. True, he had no control over his susceptibility to alcohol, but he did have control over his behavior or reaction to it. Why not apply this principle to the average homosexual and lesbian?

Singer Aiken’s statement on Good Morning America is quite intriguing and revealing. Listen to what he said. “I can’t raise a kid and teach him how to lie, teach him to hide things. I can’t raise a kid and teach him to keep secrets. And at the same time, I also don’t ever want to raise him in an environment where it’s not OK for him to be exactly who he is, no matter what.” And on that note, I ask Aiken a question or two:

1) Suppose your son grows up to be a pedophile? Would you then say, “I also don’t ever want to raise him in an environment where it’s not OK for him to be exactly who he is, no matter what.”

2) How can you raise a male kid who was born heterosexual in a homosexual environment and expect him to not grow up without leaning toward homosexuality? Will not his early exposure to homosexual activities influence his future behavior?


The bottom line is that God will be the final Judge. And He will judge righteously and justly—and, I might add, mercifully. In the meantime, consider this: The word “detestable” is the most negative adjective used in heaven’s testimony, the scriptures, as well as in the English language. It means to dislike intensely. Here is how God feels about homosexuality, “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable” (Lev. 20:13).

One of my readers said she has been attracted to other women since before puberty, but she does not act upon the attraction. She noted that she has chosen to be married and have sex with her husband. I believe such cravings for and attractions to the same gender are developed at a young age, mostly because of environmental factors. Those attractions, however, do not have to be acted upon—as this lady has decided not to do. The urge to lie, to steal, to hate, and to commit adultery is developed, as I think all of us will agree. Why, then, is it so difficult to see that the urge to have sex with the same gender is developed and/or learned?

In closing, I want to reiterate what I touched upon earlier. That a small segment of the homosexual community is born with sexual aberrations, defects, and deformities no knowledgeable person will deny—aberrations which seem to spur their sexual thoughts in the direction of the same gender. There’s some question whether a mix-up or mixture of genes is the culprit. I don’t believe the gene factor has been solidly and medically established. Some medical researchers affirm it, others deny it. There is ample evidence that genes are not the cause of sexual deviations.

My heart leads me to believe, however, based upon my many years of confrontations, contacts, and dialogues with homosexuals and lesbians, that 95 percent of them are that way because they have chosen that lifestyle. Reflect upon this question, “Is the homosexual that way because he has voluntarily adopted that lifestyle or because he was forced into it via his biological predisposition?
Buff,

This is a good mind provoking article. For myself I believe most , especially in the arts, are definitely by choice.

I remember when Ellen DeGeneres relationship broke up with Anne Heche, Anne started to date a man.

Now, here is where I see a major problem that is exploding world wide.

I personally do not dee and increase in alcoholics, or gamblers, or (from your list) revilers, liars, swindlers, thieves and other such that God will judge on..... but debaucheries are exploding. Exploding far past what one might say same sex couples are ok if they are committed...... (NOT)

We have sex change wannabes ...... We have moms taking their young children to watch drag shows.... we had ( may have stopped?) about 15 to 16 years ago women who actually would tape down their boy babies private parts.... I wonder how many of them have grown up wanting to be a girl? Wiki How still has instructions... for self doing this.(Buff you have to remember that there were a thread rt two on that other forum you and I are on....)

There is just so much perversion, sexually, these days that is being accepted and we who are against such are called hateful and worse.

There is a true explosion of it and I believe it is because Satan found the one was to get to people... especially many who were/are drug abusers.... and that way is through the flesh because once they find out they like it they are not going to stop....

And I certainly feel this is another indication we are well into last days, fast approaching the end.
 
The “gay Christian” argument: While Jesus spoke against divorce and adultery, He never said a word about homosexual practice, although in His teaching about eunuchs He indicated that some people are born gay and should be fully accepted by the church without being expected to change.

The biblical response: It’s dangerous to use an argument from silence, but in reality, Jesus reaffirmed and deepened the sexual morals of the Law. He stated that all sexual acts outside of marriage defile us, and He stated emphatically that marriage as God intended referred to the lifelong union of one man and one woman. As for eunuchs—by birth or choice or by the actions of others—He was referring to those who refrained from sexual activity and marriage (or who were unable to engage in sexual activity).

 
Obadiah, you noted, "...although in His teaching about eunuchs He indicated that some people are born gay and should be fully accepted by the church without being expected to change."

This is completely off-center, my brother. I suggest you read what Jesus actually said about eunuchs in Matthew 19:11-12.

Too, here is how God feels about homosexuality, “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable” (Lev. 20:13). Since God said it, His Son believed it - naturally.
 
Obadiah, you noted, "...although in His teaching about eunuchs He indicated that some people are born gay and should be fully accepted by the church without being expected to change."

This is completely off-center, my brother. I suggest you read what Jesus actually said about eunuchs in Matthew 19:11-12.

Too, here is how God feels about homosexuality, “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable” (Lev. 20:13). Since God said it, His Son believed it - naturally.
A “eunuch” was an impotent man (not capable of sexual relations) who usually had been castrated before puberty. Jesus said in this verse, however, that some men were born this way, some were made impotent by men (physically castrated, to serve as chamberlains and to care for harems, see Esther 2:15), and some made themselves impotent (metaphorically, is the common understanding) to better serve the kingdom of God.

In both the Old and New Covenants, eunuchs had the same standing in God’s eyes as anyone else (Isaiah 56:3-5 and Acts 8:26-39). Because they often served in the courts of kings, there are many Old Testament and New Testament examples of eunuchs with high positions and authority (example, Daniel 1:3-18 and Acts 8:27).
 
A “eunuch” was an impotent man (not capable of sexual relations) who usually had been castrated before puberty. Jesus said in this verse, however, that some men were born this way, some were made impotent by men (physically castrated, to serve as chamberlains and to care for harems, see Esther 2:15), and some made themselves impotent (metaphorically, is the common understanding) to better serve the kingdom of God.

In both the Old and New Covenants, eunuchs had the same standing in God’s eyes as anyone else (Isaiah 56:3-5 and Acts 8:26-39). Because they often served in the courts of kings, there are many Old Testament and New Testament examples of eunuchs with high positions and authority (example, Daniel 1:3-18 and Acts 8:27).
Nothing to do with being homosexual, more like now asexual
 
Obadiah, my disagreement with what you wrote initially surrounds your statement, "...although in His teaching about eunuchs He indicated that some people are born gay and should be fully accepted by the church without being expected to change."

Your statement indicates a misunderstanding of the misnomer tern "gay" (meaning homosexual, per the homosexual community). Eunuchs are not homosexuals, for they are not capable of indulging in pleasurable sexual relationships with either male or female - therefore, not "gay."

Jesus did not speak negatively about eunuchs. Instead, most of His remarks were of a positive kind.​
 
Gays can be saved but the need to repent and sustain from same-sex activity.

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves… shall inherit the kingdom of God…” (1 Cor. 6:9-10).

“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new” (2 Cor. 5:17).

What is the origin of homosexual desire? “For this cause God gave them up to vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another…” Rom. 1:26-27

The origin of homosexual desire is a rejection of heterosexual desire. It is not a desire for same sex friendship. It is a rejection of what is embedded in nature. This desire may certainly be driven by deep hurts or abuses or loneliness. But the Bible gives no indication that there is some kind inherent gift or glory in not embracing the natural glory of being made male/female in the image of God and therefore oriented toward heterosexual marriage.
 
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The “gay Christian” argument: While Jesus spoke against divorce and adultery, He never said a word about homosexual practice, although in His teaching about eunuchs He indicated that some people are born gay and should be fully accepted by the church without being expected to change.

The biblical response: It’s dangerous to use an argument from silence, but in reality, Jesus reaffirmed and deepened the sexual morals of the Law. He stated that all sexual acts outside of marriage defile us, and He stated emphatically that marriage as God intended referred to the lifelong union of one man and one woman. As for eunuchs—by birth or choice or by the actions of others—He was referring to those who refrained from sexual activity and marriage (or who were unable to engage in sexual activity).

 
Obadiah, again you seem to be off-center on this topic, for you wrote, Homosexuality "is not a desire for same sex friendship." I've worked in this field for decades in a psychiatric setting, and I assure you homosexuality IS a desire for same sex relationships. Sex is the leading/core factor, not just friendship.​
 
We should expect a number of Christians to experience forms of same-sex attraction. We live in a fallen world. Creation has been affected by our sin. It has been subjected to frustration. There is sickness. There is disorder. It affects our bodies, our hearts, and our minds as well. Christians succumb to the ravages of this fallen order as much as anyone.

Being Christian makes us no less likely to fall ill, face tragedy, or experience insecurity. All of us experience fallen sexual desires, whether those desires are heterosexual or homosexual by nature. It is not un-Christian to experience same-sex attraction any more than it is un-Christian to get sick. What marks us out as Christian is not that we never experience such things, but how we respond to them when we do.
 
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