Relationships/love is a 2 way street or you have abuse, slavery, dictatorship etc..... the very definition of unloving.
Christ merited the love of God. Worthy is the Lamb..... that will be our praise throughout the endless ages. WORTHY.
In the Calvinist system.... "men" are WORTHY of the choices of God.
What choice does God make that doesn't have innate worth? God's choices are valuable. Worthy. Merited by something. Based upon things that are GOOD... and PURE... and Worthy of praise.
The Calvinist seeks praise for himself. Even when the Calvinist attempts "praise God" it turns into the prayer of the Pharisee.....
Luk 18:9 And he spake this parable unto certain which trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others:
Luk 18:10 Two men went up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican.
Luk 18:11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican.
Luk 18:12 I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess.
Luk 18:13 And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.
Luk 18:14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.